I recently had a friend say she’s considering homeschooling and ask for advice.  Specifically, she asked for tips, but also why we chose whatever curriculum we chose. Below is some of the advice I shared with her:

I love homeschooling, even though sometimes I want to duck-tape the kids to the wall! (And now that our oldest is entering her prepubescent years, THAT HAS NOT CHANGED. 🙂 )

There are a million ways to go about homeschooling. And tons of things you can do! First, look for local support groups and co-ops and meet lots of homeschool moms. Find a good homeschool convention around you and GO. Talk to bunches of people. Figure out what really will fit you guys the best because that is going to matter most.

Some programs such as Sonlight, for example, are very popular – but for me it was very intense and lots of work on the parent’s part. And very expensive, which I couldn’t justify because at first hubby was not really on board. The same applies to Classical Conversations – it was a bit intense for me, and I have learned I’m not very good about following a group and doing certain things because you kinda have to stay together in your learning with the group. (And pricey for me when you have more than one kid in it.)

When I began homeschooling, I was truly on my own. I knew very few people who homeschooled and had very little direct contact with it, etc.

I started with My Father’s World for the perhaps dumb reason that I had other friends using it, and it wasn’t astronomically expensive. I didn’t really research it much at the time (like I now do). What grabbed me was that it was Christian-based and it was all organized for you. It is what they call “a box curriculum” where you buy a “kit” and that’s it. It had a teacher’s manual that says “do this” and “say that.” Made me feel a lot better as a beginner homeschool mom.

And even though, “doing X because other people are” might have a been a dumb reason to start, we truly fell in absolute LOVE with the MFW program. If I had more kids, we would absolutely go back to it for the K-2 years IN A HEARTBEAT.

I think the MFW K-2 programs are EXCELLENT. We had the best time with those years. I did add a “stronger” math (Saxon) because that made me feel better about making sure they had a strong math knowledge. I stink at math so making sure they don’t is important to me.

I like My Father’s World because its approach is to keep lessons short for short attention spans, lots of hands-on activities, big emphasis on nature and spending time outdoors. My main focus to begin with was to make sure they learn to read. And math of course. Once they can read, they can truly learn whatever the heck they want.

As an example, the K program last about 90 minutes a day which means there is plenty of time to be outside,and do all sorts of other activities. It was more important to spend my time and money on those “field trips” and extra-curriculars, etc. I loved that so little time was spent on “school” (what they think of as school) so they can focus on their own interests and what THEY want to learn and do.

Of course, now that mine are older, it has come back to bite me on the behind. They don’t want to learn what the teacher’s manual tells them it’s time to learn. They want to do what they want to do, which means I don’t have a teacher’s manual to follow anymore. I really miss being able to lean on that!

So, right now we do more of an eclectic, unit-based, notebooking, approach. We are not completely child/delight-led because I still have “control” of what I think they need to learn at this stage – but their input heavily ways in. For example – we know they have to do science. They tell me a list of ideas they are interested in, and I go looking for materials on those topics. And then we start doing them one at a time. (We only did 3 topics last year for science.) I am guessing as they get older and older, they will take more and more independence in this as well.

After that, HSLDA should be your first stop for the legal mumbo-jumbo to review the laws and reporting you need to do. But mainly you need to think about your kids learning styles and yours, and how exactly do you WANT to teach.  But, no matter where you live, it can be done. I currently live in one of the most regulated states in the US, and it is still very doable here.

Here are a few websites that have some good steps:

Homeschool Mom – Getting Started Homeschooling

Successful Homeschooling

Confessions of a Homeschooler