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In Honor of International Women’s Day, from a Working, Homeschooling Mom

08 Wednesday Mar 2017

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In honor of International Women’s Day, I’m wearing my red Homeschooling Mom t-shirt! The girls were completely uninterested in wearing red, because like all homeschoolers (or is it just mine??) they really don’t see the point of wearing something just because someone told them to, or everyone else is. And also, they are apparently hitting the “party pooper” stage of tweendom.

What I love about my working homeschooling mom life, is that I get the best of everything (except sleep).  I don’t HAVE TO CHOOSE, between being home with my kids and having a career. Sure, neither one of those look like the traditional experience  (of either category) for me, but who cares?

And in honor of today, I thought I would share with you how I am spending my day. Granted, this is not a typical work day for me (typical is worse, lol!) — technically we are on “vacation” in Miami visiting family, but you can still see what a day in my life looks like:

So, this is how my day went.

7am Wake up to kid climbing in bed snuggling with me. Glance at the clock and pretend it doesn’t exist for a few more minutes.

7:30am Get up, do bare minimum of getting ready for day. MAKE THE COFFEE. Boot up the computer. Eat plain gluten-free bread with butter, not toast, because I am not at home and don’t have a gluten-free designated toaster here. Get kids moving on getting ready for day

8am Log in and watch webinar for new client who wants me to take over her client-facing training webinars. Drinking the coffee and eating the fake toast while watching. Get kids working on the minimum of school work we brought with us, and youngest doing her therapy exercises.

9am Webinar is done. Direct traffic (i.e. check in on kids, and give next set of directions.) Put on real clothes and brush hair, and prep 2nd cup of coffee. Spend 1/2 hour responding and cleaning out email backlog.

9:30am Call from brand-new client from webinar this morning. It’s a sudo-interview, so I’m trying to sound coherent and impressive still, and taking notes.

10:20am Call ends early, so I sneak in a brush my teeth and wash my face. Check in on kids again, but hubby seems pretty on top of things at this point (he’s finally awake with a couple of cups of coffee in him, as well). Ask kids to set up bags of things we need to shove in car for later today.

10:30am Call with potential coaching client, asking about resumes. Do my pitch thing.

11am Try to hustle everyone out of the house.

11:50am Arrive at Miami Seaquarium. Get in, find cafe and feed family overpriced lunch.

12:30pm Hubby heads off with kids to do homeschool class here. Since he’s off and never gets to do these things (and only one parent can go in with kids) I’m happy to let him have experience with kids. I sit at table and whip out my laptop, to work on multiple work presentations I have been procrastinating on.

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12:30pm-3:00pm I feverishly work on training webinars in PowerPoint in the cafe, while hubby takes girls to a class on sharks. Where they also apparently dissected fish. And touched creepy, slimy things. I’m perfectly okay with missing this moment in their lives!

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3pm Walk around the park a bit so I can actually say I’ve seen something, and my oldest creates an “incident” by dropping her pencil in the sea lion tank and the sea lion tries to eat it. Super proud mama moment means it’s probably time to leave before we’re kicked out.

3:30pm Drive back to in-laws, stopping at Italian bakery to pick up frozen gluten-free meals for me to have for dinner tonight, because it’s pizza night for everyone else. Consider mortgaging the pencil kid to pay bill.

5pm-8pm Celebrate niece’s 15th birthday with pizza and entire crazy loud Dominican family.

And while this is all going on, my mother-in-law does my laundry for me. Either because she loves me, or she doesn’t want me messing with her machine! 🙂

8:45pm Finally home and have kids in bed with lights off, and settled on my bed with laptop ready to work again for a couple of hours before crashing.

So, that’s my day. And yes, I am SUPPOSED TO BE ON VACATION. This is as close as I will probably get to a vacation for quite a while. Because let’s face it, even on “vacation,” women – especially working-while-homeschooling ones – never really get to NOT work. At least this one.

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How to Homeschool Year-Round . . . But Not

14 Tuesday Jul 2015

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Homeschool, Homeschool Girl Power!, Summer, Working and Homeschooling, Year-Round Homeschool

When we first started to homeschool, hubby and I discussed what the schedule might be. I had read several posts about “homeschooling year-round” and decided that was for us. It made complete sense to me, even beyond all the facts and figures. The girls were young, it’s not like we spent that much time each day in organized lessons to begin with, and I had to keep them occupied somehow. It allowed us to have a very flexible schedule and take vacations/breaks whenever we wanted. Plus, it really seemed to help to keep our lives on a good routine.

And then, I started to burn out.

The first time, I took off a month. Having the break in routine was a welcome change and let us all recover from mental fatigue.

The second time, I took a two month break, and within weeks the girls were begging to do school again. They loved learning, and mommy wanting a vacation from homeschool meant little to them. I crammed all my lesson planning into one week, and then away we went again.

Last year we had a “summer break” in the sense that we didn’t do official homeschool for the entire summer. Unfortunately, we also spent the entire summer with the move from HE-you-know-what. Preparing and lesson plans were squeezed in between repair contractors and my job. I had absolutely no break whatsoever. Getting back to homeschooling in September was a very welcome reprieve!

By this Spring though, I was DONE. D-O-N-E, put a fork in me DONE. Tired and weary, I just needed a break. A true break, one that was going to allow me to catch up on the backlog to-do that I was drowning in, but also a break that would remind me why I was homeschooling in the first place.

And yet, my girls still love learning. They see no need for a long “break” from that at all! (After all, summers during public school for me was all about getting to spend my day playing and doing the activities that I wanted to do. We don’t have that problem in homeschool!) Even while writing this post, my youngest just asked when we are going to get back to the Physics unit we were studying.

MY SOLUTION – SUMMER CAMPS.

We have been mightily blessed that my husband’s job allows him to have a FSA – Flexible Spending Account for childcare. We always fund it, because that usually pays for our regular childcare while I work. Now that the kids are older, they don’t need as much of that during the day as before, so we also use it to cover any summer camp activities I can find.

In the past we did a FABULOUS math camp in the Northern Virginia area (MathTree for anyone who is there.) Our first purpose in this was to make sure they were strong in math, and cover any pitfalls they might have because I am the one teaching them. (I am not a math person. AT ALL.) I love that camp so much that I’d pay for it, even without that FSA account. But, Math Camp and VBS was all that we did.

This summer though, I knew I needed more time. I really needed that entire summer off. Of course though, I can’t take the summer off from being Mom if they are still home! So I was on a mission to find really good-quality summer camps.

Since I’m not really looking for “playtime childcare,” I tend to focus on “educational” type opportunities, specifically on activities that we haven’t been able to investigate during the year, or to help cover any possible “mom-weak spots” like the Math Camp I mentioned before. Unfortunately, I couldn’t find a “math camp” here. But even without that, the girls are having a total blast with all the cool things they are doing.

This is our summer plan:

  • One week at Franklin Institute (Children Science Museum) in Philadelphia. We LOVE the Franklin Institute. I just wish it wasn’t in downtown Philly, with the hellacious drive.
  • One week at local community college kid camp – one did art camp, and one did a “building” camp. The art camp was loved, but sadly, the building ended up being more “crafts” and less “using real hammer and nails” like our younger one hoped. (Neither hubby and I are very “handy” type people.)
  • One week off the week of July 4th- they played at home a ton, and we went to the community pool as well!
  • One week of VBS at our church. I spent the mornings running errands and doing meetings, then the girls came home and played each afternoon.
  • One week of dance/cheerleading camp at their dance center. We didn’t do Upwards Cheerleading last winter and they’ve been asking about it.
  • One week of sewing/knitting camp, hosted by another local community college. My girls have been begging for this, but I don’t know how to do either! I was so excited when I found this one.
  • One week of no camp, because I have to take a work trip and can’t do the carpool. Most likely we will have our Spanish-speaking babysitter here those days I’m gone, and she will continue to work on their Spanish as they play.
  • One week learning of “World Culture” camp at Pearl S. Buck International. This goes along with our World Geography emphasis right now, and also allows us to take advantage of an awesome local resource.
  • And then, hopefully 2 weeks of hanging out at the beach and with family!
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At Franklin Institute. Proudly showing off our homeschool T-Shirts.

Art Camp. Self Portraits.

I’ve been using this time to make myself work on my to-do list! I’ve been cranking out work projects (that were sadly way-past-due), networking locally to find new business and clientele, and catching up on a few work writing projects. It’s that list of “I need to do this” that I haven’t been able to make time for over the past year. You know – that list that hangs over your head making you feel stressed out because X didn’t get done. As an also-working-homeschool-mom, most of mine are work-related right now, in addition to the 60 million blog posts I’m holding in my head for this blog! For you, it could be the deep spring-now-summer clean, or the errands and chores that never get done, or perhaps to get ahead in prepping for the fall.

And as much as getting everything done, it has been a massive sanity saver! I really just needed some time where I wasn’t the one who was coming up with cool summer activities and fun things for the kids to do. My kids also seem to thrive on having a at least a bit of structure in their day and on having some sort of routine. We all love free-form-play days, but after about 3-4 days of that there is usually some sort of behavioral outburst. And frankly, I can’t seem to concentrate well if they are in the house. My “mom-antenna” just won’t turn off if they are here and awake. So projects that require long stretches of quiet or concentration (like my writing projects, or video recordings for work) tend to not happen. So, I’ve been able to take these weeks and just THINK for just a few hours. It’s been awesome.

If you’re a bit creative, year-round “homeschool” can still happen, even if you are on a tight budget! I remember my parents taking me to several different VBS programs when I was growing up. We also were very active in the library summer program – they had a special event/activity once a week.

I have found that today’s working parents are always looking for great deals on summer programs and it feels that there are a growing number of more affordable camps out there – so be sure to ask around! The local YMCA and nature centers might also have “free programs.”

My sister, a school teacher, also used to do what she called “Papa Camp” where Grandpa comes and takes over the week! Sometimes he’d bring the boys down to his house for the week and they’d have the fun of going to the beach and fishing, etc.

Or, you can get a bit creative and “create camp” with a few homeschool moms! Do you have a few families that your kids play well together? Perhaps you moms can each rotate taking a week being “summer camp leader” and share the load, giving the other moms a few weeks off. Locally, I’ve heard of free bowling afternoons and $1 movies.

One of the perks of my “experiment” this summer? I have realized that I absolutely hate carpooling. Just another renewed appreciation for the freedom of homeschooling! I have loved that my girls are having these experiences, but I hate the driving back and forth, the stress of getting up to make sure we get to Point A by a certain time, remembering to make lunches the night before as well as actually remembering to take the lunches with us, dealing with traffic (or what PA seems to consider traffic. HA), and then stressing to make sure that I leave wherever I am to make sure I am back in time to pick them up from Point A at a specific, certain time. I’m very thankful we’ll be back to our “normal” soon!

Another lesson learned, is to not get to a point where I burn out so badly in the first place! I am going to be much more intentional about my planning this year. When we changed our homeschool plan last January, it made a true difference in our homeschool experience, for me. I feel I can really relax and just enjoy the homeschool study with them, as opposed to stressing about whether or not I’m doing enough, blah blah blah. I’ve learned to trust the process, and it’s become one of my of my favorite parts of my day. BUT, I am going to be sure to schedule in full week breaks with regularity in our upcoming school schedule. That way, if we are “behind,” we have a time set aside to catch up. If we’re “caught up”, we have time set aside for goofing off and play! I’m also going to put us on a full 4-day week schedule, allowing for one day to be devoted to whatever it needs to be devoted to. Some weeks that might be free-play while mom works on a work project, some weeks it might be focusing on AHG badge work and learning projects that never got into the rotation last year. So far, this fall we’ll work on some fun AHG Badges for the girls, and I also want to spend some time doing music theory lessons and getting very intentional about their Spanish.

Oh, and the best part? I can count these camp days toward our “homeschool days” requirement of 180 days here in PA. So we are getting a huge jump-start on this year, the girls are still learning even if I am not the one teaching, AND my to-do list is being completed! I’m practically having my cake and eating it too!

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Back in the Saddle, and Back to Blogging

02 Wednesday Apr 2014

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Homeschool, My Father's World 1st Grade, Upward, Working and Homeschooling

It’s been a CRAZY year this year. Oh my gosh, HOW INSANE.

And of course, we decided to make it even more insane by putting our girls in Upward Sports this winter. There went our entire Saturday EVERY Saturday, for the past three months.  But they loved it. LOVED it. Sigh. At least it counts as PE, right.

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That truly has been the extent of our lives for the past few months. Not too much exciting to share or report.

Oh, but I have to share this cute picture. Our youngest was reading the story of Joseph in her Bible reader (My Father’s World 1st grade) and drew this picture. Notice she labeled him “Jose.” Ha! #SpanishSpeakersUnite!

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Now that Upward Sports is over, I can try to catch up on all my blogging here, AND start getting ready for our move and for HEAV’s homeschool convention! You’ll be seeing a lot about that in upcoming weeks, so stay tuned!

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Becoming a “Work From Home” Mom . . . And Homeschooling, Day 5

26 Thursday Sep 2013

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As I mentioned in previous posts, I’m sharing tips and ideas that I’ve gleaned through my Working while Homeschooling time this past year. (If you would like to check out Day 1 of this series, please click here, day 2 here, and day 3 here, and day 4 here.)

TIP #7: DELEGATE.

There is just not enough you and not enough hours in the day for everything to get done. And so you’ve got to figure out ways to either clone yourself (look below), or delegate some of those responsibilities.

After figuring out our homeschooling priorities, it was easy for me to see which things were important for me not to delegate away: work (because I can’t), and homeschool. And so those are the first two things that get first dibs on my time.

Notice housework is not in that list! 🙂

When we were financially able, we would get help with the house. Even having someone come in and doing the heavy cleaning 1x a week or even every two weeks lifted a burden off of my that allowed me to deal with other things. I just needed to deal with maintaining that clean as best I could, but knowing someone had my back took a lot of the pressure off. I totally recommend getting outside help if it is ever in your budget, even if it is just once a month. I consider it time well saved and money very well spent.

Now, when it is not in our budget due to the high cost of living, there are still things I can delegate. First of all, I delegate dealing with hubby’s work clothes. There is a dry cleaner not far away that can do a MUCH better job than me on his suits and shirts for work, and much more quickly as well. They cost just $1.20 per shirt. It would take me 15-20 minutes to iron that exact same shirt, and that time would cost me a lot more in work time lost! So we delegate out his work clothes. (Happily, too. I absolutely hate ironing with a passion.)

And the biggest thing is that I’m now trying to delegate some of these cleaning activities on to the girls. I started this last year, right when we moved here and even before I got work. They were five and three at the time, and obviously this is a long-term plan. At that age there were still things they could do, which meant there were things I then didn’t have to do. We started with making their beds every morning. (Cleaning up their play area was always their task.) They have learned to fold part of the clothes, which started with matching and folding socks, to wash cloths and hand towels, to large towels, to their shorts and pants. (Shirts are complicated, so we are working up to that.) Even with that much, they now fold about half the laundry, which cuts my own time folding laundry in half. They help me clean the bathroom – they need lots of supervision but they get it done while I do things they can’t reach, like the mirrors, etc. They help put dishes away and dust, while I vacuum and clean the kitchen. The girls are a major help around the house, and we do much of that together – I can supervise and get things done while they do their part. There is absolutely no way I could complete anything around the house without their help. The house is still not perfectly clean ever, but every once in a while we will just drop everything and scrub the entire house down so we can start fresh and new.

I delegate out some homeschool things that I can’t do. The girls are in the church’s kid choir, where they are learning about music theory and performance. I could do this, but there is not much need since the church has awesome volunteers that do such a great job. We also have a babysitter that comes in twice a week (more on the big childcare issue later) and she is a fluent, native speaker of Spanish. So, she works with the girls on their Spanish. That is something I can’t do. We also rely on some summer camp activities, like Math Camp, or soccer for organized sports. We have gotten active in our church’s food pantry and their gardens, where some of the retired members of our church volunteer. One woman in particular has “adopted” my girls and they adore her. She takes them through the gardens and teaches them all about gardening. (I do not have a green thumb at all, and seem to kill just about everything I touch.)

Hubby has taken over science for me as long as I set it out for him to do, and also does many of the “field trips” when I have speaking engagements on the weekend (which happens every few months).

And we have a family in our neighborhood that is brand new to homeschooling, and I’m hoping that she and I can team up and perhaps carpool on somethings occasionally in the future. Even with homeschool, you don’t always have to do everything yourself. Take advantages of whatever resources might be around you.

TIP #8: FIGURE OUT HOW TO DO TWO THINGS AT ONCE.

And this is the big trick. You’ve got to figure out what to do when delegating isn’t possible, and until cloning is. You’ve got to do two things at once.

Almost all of my work is on the phone with clients nonstop in the afternoons, so it’s hard for me to do two things at once. But some things I’ve figured out. I run the dishwasher at lunch so it can be doing dishes while I’m working. I run the washing machine and dryer, stopping only to flip it while doing homeschool and work. That’s two things I’ve figured out so far.

Since I have both a laptop and a desktop computer, sometimes I will have something running on the laptop while I’m working so I can try to do two things at once. Like, perhaps editing pictures during breaks between calls so I can upload them during calls. Writing work blog posts during breaks. Doing “the books” during a slow period.

This is really how it boils down to me. Time IS money. Every hour I spend not on the phone with clients means that is an hour I’m not earning money. If I generally make $XX per hour dealing with clients, then whatever I do when I am not working, needs to be worth that time. (Like ironing hubby’s shirts. In the time it would take me to iron them, I could be working with clients and making $XXX amount of money, and usually am. So therefore, it really IS a lot cheaper for us to delegate that out.) I try not to waste too much time doing things that aren’t worth my time.

I know some people will argue that point with me, saying that’s a very American, humanistic point of view, and to a certain extent I agree. However, I know that time is my most precious and valuable commodity and resource that God has given me, and it is extremely important to me that I be a good steward of that resource during this time period of my life.

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Becoming a “Work From Home” Mom . . . And Homeschooling, Day 4

25 Wednesday Sep 2013

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As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, I’m sharing tips and ideas that I’ve gleaned through my Working while Homeschooling time this past year. (If you would like to check out Day 1 of this series, please click here, day 2 here, and day 3 here)

TIP #5: DEAL WITH YOUR HOMESCHOOL CURRICULUM PLAN.

You need to make your curriculum choices with your schedule in mind. For us, we went with My Father’s World Adventures program, along with Saxon Math. One of the things I truly love about these programs, is that they do the teacher’s work for you. I love the teacher manuals. I love that they do the planning and I don’t have to. I just want to teach my kids, I don’t want to do the planning! So, now that I’m working, that saves me TONS of time.

I have just three hours to get all homeschool work done each day. And most of the time it works out okay, but sometimes it a bit of a struggle. Since my girls are young, but of the homeschool work still needs a great deal of teacher/mom involvement. Perhaps when they are older we might look into doing some online computer programs, looking into co-op or outside class options. Long-term, part of our homeschool goals is to create independent learners who take ownership of their education. So, I can see our homeschooling evolving as they age, and they start to do more and more on their own.

But, in order to give me some of that independent learning time NOW while they are young, I am trying a number of different ideas. #1 is the public library. My favorite local one has a fabulous video section. I try to find “science” topic videos based on whatever we are studying at the time. Or, last year when we were reading through the stories of the Bible, we did a lot of Bible videos of the story we read that day. We even did some cute ones about Jewish holidays as they related to what we were studying (Passover/Easter, for example). This year, while studying American history, I’ll be taking advantage of that section of videos as well. And I’ve been known to record kid shows on the DVR that relate to something we’re studying – one we watched last night dealt with learning about pulleys.

I also bought a huge stack of “kid” magazines at a curriculum sale a few years ago, and have a massive kid book library at home. Many of our toys are imagination-based, and when reading Little House on the Prairie last year, I found paper dolls for the story, and some Lincoln logs for them to play with from the thrift store. Not always what you think of as “school” time, but it does help to reinforce what you’re studying. Puzzles, some games, etc can all be used as “school fun” as well.

We do not currently have a “kid” computer in the house, but I am considering getting that at Christmas.

TIP #6: GIVE UP ON REINVENTING THE HOMESCHOOL WHEEL.

Now is not the time to try to create everything yourself. All that extra “creative” planning time you had, is now probably gone. Oh, and stay away from Pinterest!

This is the time to employ a very effective method called, CASE. As in, Copy and Steal/Share Everything. I learned about it in scrapbooking. Basically, it means that you don’t HAVE to come up with your own ideas, or be Ms. Martha Stewart in your school. You just have to copy them.

Honestly, I’ve gotten to the point where I do very little of even that.

And I don’t create my own worksheets or projects. I never really did, as I don’t really enjoy that very much, and it seems like others do such a better job than I could do, anyway! For extra supplemental ideas, I use Confessions of a Homeschooler, and then I also watch Scholastic Teacher Express very closely, and jump at their $1 deal sales. (Really, those are AWESOME, and happens a couple of times a year.) Those alone have been enough for me.

And I don’t go crazy trying to invent crazy cool field trips, either. Whenever possible, I try to join up with the local homeschool groups on the ones that someone else has already done the work to organize. When I am required to volunteer with these groups to participate, I try to organize a SIMPLE, non-time-consuming activity that many will enjoy, and I try to make it relate to whatever our personal homeschool plans are. Last year we did a gardening class through my church’s food pantry garden. This year, I might be doing a State Geography night, since we will be studying geography. (I’ll be copying our already existing “International” night, and just applying it to US geography. Should be very easy. I think.)

And since hubby enjoys it, I let him take the lead on a lot of field trip stuff as well.

I know that there are several really cool ideas floating around in my head, and that one day I’ll be able to implement them all, but today is not that day. Or even that year. Right now is the time for me to let other experts take the lead.

So, I stick with following the curriculum program that I like, and supplementing with extra where I feel necessary. It’s really more important that we focus on getting the basics completed and completed well during our limited homeschool time. Everything else is just gravy.

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Becoming a “Work From Home” Mom . . . And Homeschooling, Day 3

24 Tuesday Sep 2013

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As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, I’m sharing tips and ideas that I’ve gleaned through my Working while Homeschooling time this past year. (If you would like to check out Day 1 of this series, please click here and for day 2, here.)

TIP #3: GET HUBBY’S FULL SUPPORT.

Before you can make both homeschooling and working from home work, your entire family is going to have be on board. Especially your spouse.

Part of it is understanding and accepting. Dinner will not always be on time, or exciting any more. The house will not always be clean. (And before you start laughing, realize this means from whatever the norm is now, it’s going to get worse.) Sometimes getting through the day will be all that happens. And frankly, you’re gonna need him to walk in the door, smile, say “I got this,” and order a pizza. And mean it. Untold amount of stress is going to happen if this is not a TEAM EFFORT.

And in addition, having him jump in is going to help take some of the stressful burden off of you.

And here I get to brag on my hubby. Normally, hubby is in a job where workaholic-ism is considered a regular way of life. One blessing of being here in the States is that he has more regular, “normal” hours. Which means, he really can participate in more of the day-to-day of our family. On days when I have to work late, or have evening meetings, he just jumps right in. When my day is nuts, I can throw meat out to defrost and he cooks dinner on the grill at least 1x a week. He helps clean up the kitchen when I have to jump on the computer after the girls are in bed, and flips the laundry whenever he sees it needs it. He pushes a mean vacuum cleaner!

In addition to his normal “homeschool principal” duties, we schedule “field trips” on Saturdays when I have a speaking engagement and hubby will take them to cool places. He hits the museums and cool activities around the area. It stinks for me because I miss out, but the my girls absolutely love their daddy time! He also takes care of science projects on the weekends, and decided he also wanted to teach them chess this year.

And in addition to all that, he jumps in and helps me with my business activities. He helps me with some of the work both here and with my work blog, and even plays the “spouse of” at my networking events.  I really do have a keeper, ladies, and I know it.

TIP #4: AGREE ON YOUR FAMILY PRIORITIES. AND STICK WITH THEM.

When you get started on this journey, it really helps to sit down and have a family meeting about which things are most important in your family. And then everyone needs to understand that all decisions will be made in accordance with that list.

For example, our family meeting (really just hubby and I) decided that our top priorities were homeschool, and our work – specifically focusing on my business. In addition, our homeschool mission statement that we worked on getting ready for HEAV really came out this conversation. Defining your priorities as far as your homeschool curriculum will also help keep you on track.

So, when “opportunities” come your way, you (and the rest of your family) must judge them by these priorities. Something really cool come up but doesn’t fit in? You must say no. (Also handy excuse for when you want to say no, but don’t know how!)

And it also helps you decide how to manage your time, when you follow your family priorities! For example, I was asked to be a mediator of a homeschool group online. But I turned it down because it didn’t fit into any categories of our priority list. But, being asked to lead a Bible study for the women at our church – that was a duty I accepted, because it fit into our family spiritual goals!

It also helps to have everyone on the same page – that when house is falling down around you and the fridge is empty because you haven’t been to the grocery store like you mean to, and your hubby walks in the door to find out one child prayed accept Jesus in her heart, and the other is grasping reading and math facts that you never thought would get through. Part of knowing that you achieved your goals is knowing when you achieved success. So, this is a time to decide which things mean “success” for you and your family.

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Becoming a “Work From Home” Mom . . . And Homeschooling, Day 2

23 Monday Sep 2013

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As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, I’m sharing tips and ideas that I’ve gleaned through my Working while Homeschooling time this past year. (If you would like to check out Day 1 of this series, please click here.)

TIP #1: BECOME A SCHEDULING QUEEN.

Welcome to the world of the hyper-scheduled! Really. Yeah, I know – this is one of the things I loved most about my homeschool life before working. How life was just allowed to more organically happen and wasn’t ruled by the Almighty-Calendar.

Yeah, that is over.

You need to get yourself the best organizational calendar program you can find. Digital, paper, whatever. I personally use a combination of both: Outlook for my job, Cozi as a family calendar (sharing everything with Hubby), and a hard copy organizer/planner that I love but keep forgetting to use and update. Way too many to deal with – but I can’t seem to let go of the paper planner. We also both have cheapie phones, so I don’t have a way of taking Cozi around with me when out, and hubby doesn’t always see my paper planner. So, until I come up with a better solution, this is what we’re stuck with. I really like Cozi for what it does. I wish PlannerPads would come out with a digital version of their calendar though! That would be my ideal.

In order for me to stay relatively sane, and not let balls drop, I have to keep my calendars hyper-organized and up-to-date. At least twice a month I will go through all the emails I have in-boxes (cause yeah, I have multiple email accounts to deal with now, too) and make sure everything is organized and added. EVERY LITTLE THING. Playdates, doctor appointments, going to the grocery store, everything.

On top of scheduling like a banshee, are routines. I had to create all new routines in order to get things done. Before this fall, when hubby worked late on Mondays, I took that evening to run errands like library trips and grocery shopping whenever possible. (I love that my favorite library is open late!) Now, we’re doing American Heritage Girls on Monday nights, so will have to work on creating a new routine for that this year.

I’m also working on helping my girls get more organized about their own routines. Instead of “chore charts” (I’m not a fan), I’ve created “Morning and Evening Routine Reminders” to help them remember what to do, hopefully with less nagging reminders from me. (I do plan to share that soon, as well!)

And hubby has also joined in on the bandwagon. He is actually remembering to add his own things to the Cozi calendar, and check there for the family schedule. And has adding “helping out a LOT more” to his own personal routines as well. But I promise, more on that later as well. Because our hubby’s deserve their own section!

Moral of this story: if it is not on my calendar, and not on my to-do list, IT WILL NOT GET DONE.

TIP #2: LEARN TO SAY NO. A LOT. LIKE ALL THE TIME. EVEN IF YOU DON’T WANT TO.

Here’s the thing. There are only so many hours in the day. And only so many days in the week. And only so many weeks in the month. And so on.

And there is just one you.

There are a lot of things you are going to have to give up if you want to homeschool and work. Currently I work between 20-30 hours per week. We homeschool from 9am-12pm, have 1/2 hour for lunch, and then I work from 12:30pm-5pm every day. At five, I start dinner, rush around trying to clean the kitchen or whatever can be cleaned in that half-hour, and when hubby arrives home we eat dinner. The girls go to bed between 7:30pm-8pm and then I get back on the laptop to pretend to work some more (or that’s the idea).

That doesn’t leave a lot of time for extras.

We don’t do many afternoon activities – because I have to work. Play dates are ew and far between. We do field trips, but there are few of those during the week. Most of those last a full day –  and I have to work. Mainly they happen on weekends, with Daddy, when I have a work engagement on the weekends. All field trips are planned and scheduled far in advance, so I can organize my work schedule around them.

We do not do co-ops. The co-ops for younger children in our area really tend to be “elective” type courses, and also require the parent to teach/volunteer. I personally don’t want to volunteer for those, and I don’t have time to waste doing lesson plans for random electives.

There is little “free” time for me as well. Any time I have free is already well – accounted for with a mile-long to do list, or cleaning.

So, you have to start saying no all the time to others, even when there are fabulous ideas floating around, and things you would really LIKE to do, but know you will really never get it done. There are others who can and maybe should do it. But right now? It’s not me. If it’s not work or homeschool, it’s a very low chance I’ll say yes.

Bottom line: You have to GUARD YOUR TIME. Because it is precious and fleeting.

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Becoming a “Work From Home” Mom . . . And Homeschooling, Day 1

22 Sunday Sep 2013

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You might not believe me, but I’ve had this idea in my queue of blog post ideas for over a year and a half. Really! I checked!

If I had written this article back then, it would have been a MUCH different article. Back then, I was working, but working solely for myself, and on a much smaller scale.

That all changed last November. Moving to DC put us in a much different financial situation than we had been prepared for, and my working became necessary rather than “extra.” I finally found a contract position where I could do the same work for another organization, with much more regular hours and pay, with little of the marketing/sales stress it takes when trying to drum up your own business.

But we were still homeschooling! What to do then? Working the calendar, I figured I could work in the afternoons and still be able to homeschool in the mornings. It would just take organization on my part. And so, that is what we did.

Boy howdee, did it take some organization! (More on that later.)

Recently I’ve seen a lot of post in homeschooling groups about working while homeschooling. There are lots of questions, lots of ideas and opinions, and just like homeschooling, lots of ways to make it work for you and your family.

I love the work that I do. I really enjoy the company I work with. They are a great organization – encourage telecommuting and working from home, and offer complete flexibility of my schedule. (Oh, and pay pretty well!) I love working with my private clients, dealing with my speaking engagements, getting to wear grown-up clothes every once in a while (even the hose I hate so much), and attending networking events. I love that the work I do – I’m a career coach – means something. It makes a difference in people’s lives, in a very tangible way. I love that my girls see me not just in a “stay at home mom” role, but me working and being successful at it.

I love homeschooling. I love just hanging with my girls and watching the silliness they create with their learning (like running around the house after bathtime “dressed like Pocahontas” – after we learned at our Jamestown field trip – they wore nothing but a loincloth. The girls interpreted that to be a washcloth, and so that’s all they wanted to wear as well! Not exactly what I was hoping they’d remember from that trip, but at least they learned something!). I love the deep discussions they want to have about their Bible lesson, or how my youngest still wants to sit in my lap while we do her reading lesson at my desk. I absolutely love listening to them read! Imagine! My little tiny babies. . .  reading!

But I hate having to do both at the same time.

It’s not my ideal. I feel pulled in all directions, and like I do multiple things half-way and nothing really well. And as I get more and more successful at my “job” it’s starting to tug harder and harder at my most limited resource – my time. It is very, very hard to keep the boundaries there firm, especially when work is a financial necessity. There is no “down time.” Ever. I run and run and run like the Energizer Bunny, and then I collapse in bed, only to start again the next day. I start to understand the pull to “just put the kids in public school. Life would be so much easier.” Easier, maybe. Less joyful, definitely.

Even so, this happens to be the season of life I’m in, so I can either whine and moan and complain about it, or I can deal with it and look for the good. And enjoy it all while it lasts.

So, this series will cover some of my personal tips and advice on the HOW to make Homeschooling and Working work for you. Please note that I am not planning on telling you what work to do, or how to find a “work from home” job. If you really want that kind of advice, pay me to help you! 🙂 Besides, each of us has different skills and talents, and your best bet will be to find the work/position that best fits those skills and talents.

Instead, I will be focusing more on things you can do to help keep you from going completely insane in the process of both working and homeschooling. As long as you don’t hold me liable when you do! Cause you will. But then, most people think you were insane for just thinking about homeschooling. So you’re really just continuing further down the path to CrazyTown. And we’ll all be there to welcome you when you arrive and join us!

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Description of a Worthy Woman

An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
She looks for wool and flax
And works with her hands in delight.
She is like merchant ships;
She brings her food from afar.
She rises also while it is still night
And gives food to her household
And portions to her maidens.
She considers a field and buys it;
From her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She girds herself with strength
And makes her arms strong.
She senses that her gain is good;
Her lamp does not go out at night.
She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hands grasp the spindle.
She extends her hand to the poor,
And she stretches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She makes coverings for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies belts to the tradesmen.
Strength and dignity are her clothing,
And she smiles at the future.
She opens her mouth in wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
She looks well to the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
"Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all."
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
Give her the product of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates.

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